Acceptance-Learning how to accept things

Accepting things is not as easy as it may seem, but it’s also not hard when you understand it

Accepting Emotions

When we feel something, our body automatically reacts to it. But what if we suppress our emotions? Many people do that because they don’t want to face such emotions or lack tbe ability to do so. But that is neither a solution nor a remedy. The more you suppress emotions, the harder it becomes to control them.

Accepting Anger

We have been told to not let our anger be shown and also not act on it. Accepting it doesn’t mean we will act out because of it. When you are angry, this sudden surge of rageful emotion will run through you. But when you know that you are getting angry and you told yourself that you are angry, but you shouldn’t act out because of it and let the anger be. This calms you down. In reality, you have accepted this anger and it calmed you down. It was produced within you and it went there without taking control of your body.

Accepting sadness

Similarly, when you are in grief. You have low energy and you don’t like anything. You want to cry but suppress these emotions and overtime, these emotions become too much and they start to overwhelm you. So, a better way is to accept these emotions by not letting them control you. You will feel a lot of sadness and pain, but you don’t need to act on it. Just let it be and overtime, it will be all better.

Accepting hurt feelings

Accepting getting hurt emotionally is as important as anything else. It’s not that you should be hurt, but you are hurt. So, since this is reality, the sooner you accept it, the better. People often know reality but find ways to not accept it, in hopes of not making this their reality. When you accept hurting, and the pain, you will feel at ease and your body will feel light. Think of it as a 100N of force applied to you at once but it goes away after one hour, compared to 50N of force that comes and goes every single hour. Emotional burnout is as real as physical burnout. You will feel spent and tired, and ever more, you’ll feel hurt. This goes a long way. To prevent it, you need to accept the hurting part.

Accepting jealousy

Accepting jealousy may feel hard (because it is hard), but it is doable. Figure out the things that make you jeslous. It can be about money, cars or fame. In most cases, it’s your emotional partner that you feel jealous about. Jealousy is natural just like other feelings. You can not control feelings. So, the feelings that are unnecessary, just accept those as background noise but real feelings. This will make you strong and you won’t be controlled by these feelings. For jealousy, the things that are real like being jealous of your partner cheating, is of course a good thing. But being jealous of things that you know are just unnecessary, then you should accept the Jealousy and not act on it.

Accepting Failures

Failures are a part of life. A loss teaches a person more than a win. Failures are opportunities to learn. Accepting failures means accepting that you have lost and failed. When you mentally accept it, you will stop blaming yourself and see what you can do after this. Then you’ll see the things that led you to this failure. You’ll understand the weaknesses and be able to try better next time. On the other hand, rejecting failure after failing will not let you understand anything. On the contrary, you’ll be emotionally stressed.

Accepting Life

Accepting life means accepting reality. Whatever reality you are currently in, is real. If you are a student, then you are a student. If you are a worker, then that is your reality. If you are a slave, then that makes you a slave. If you have lost your arm in an accident, then that is your new reality. First step is accepting, second step is changing. After accepting, you have stopped worrying about such things. Now, you can work your way up to improve yourself and break the chains of your previous reality. If you are going bald, but you cannot accept it. You’ll always feel depressed and low in confidence, whenever you notice your hair. But if you have accepted that your hair are falling and you have done everything in your power to prevent it, but all to no avail. Then you can stop worrying about it and do something else. Or even if you want to find a solution, accepting the previous reality is still as important.

Accepting bad life choices with no regrets is something most people won’t do. People have regrets, to have done better. But you did what you were supposed to, not in the best possible way but it is already done. Instead of wasting the current time, you should do something that you won’t regret in the later future.

Running away is never a solution. Buckle up, and face your reality.